What? Alone On Valentines Day?
I used to think that being alone was a sentence. A BAD LONG TERM sentence.
I used to think that I was supposed to have a man to be complete.
I used to think I couldn’t’ go on.
But then something happened. I realized that if I didn’t love myself, how could anyone else love me?
So, I took off on a Hero’s Journey -the one where you go on an adventure, address the crisis in your life, and return home to a changed person.
I learned that my relationship with myself was the most important one I’d ever cultivate and grow. Why?
Because I knew I would always be with myself, so I’d best get to know who she was. I had a desire to learn how to be comfortable being alone, not depending on a man, or anyone else for that matter. I wanted to get to know who I truly was, and begin to honor and believe in myself once again.
I was feeling so lost, and then, one day, I found myself, my connection with God, my inner wisdom, divine guidance, and self-love.
I found that it was in the comfort and gentleness of my own heart, where all the love I wanted, was free and waiting for me.
Divine Spirit has always been with me and we are connected as one for eternity.
When you begin learning how to love yourself MORE, you become more for all the other relationships in your life too.
That was a beautiful benefit from my self-discovery journey. ALL my relationships improved and felt so much more authentic because I was.
Maybe you're happily hitched or stunningly single? Great! Maybe you’ve divorced, become a single empty nester, or you’re living the dream?
No matter where you find yourself in life today, many people feel that something is missing. We tell ourselves that there must be more to life than this?
Life’s circumstances and seasons can often leave us feeling so alone, separated, or lost in our world.
I hear you. It sucks and it’s a really hard place to be.
celebrating love in an unconventional way
So what happens when that special ‘love’ day of the year rolls around?
Valentines Day for many people is a very depressing, lonely, unfulfilled day driving us to self-soothe in a field of denial and self-loathing because we don’t have a partner.
When Valentines Day comes around every February, some people want to go hide in a cave because they may be feeling unlovable.
But, what IF you choose to make it a day where you fall in love with yourself?
Valentines Day can become a day to celebrate ALL the love that you are, no matter your "status.”
There are endless ways that we can express love to ourselves every day.
And this my friend is the best gift you can give to yourself. Time.
Honoring the most important relationship you’ll ever have is the one we have with ourselves.
You can do something special that feeds your soul- that feels downright decadent.
I’ve often enjoyed the following ideas and I hope you find at least one that resonates with you to give yourself the LOVE you deserve.
Not only just on Valentine’s Day but every day, where you take a moment for yourself because you deserve it.
Create a fabulous meal, with some delicious wine, while playing your favorite music.
How about taking that lavender bath with candles while putting on some relaxing zen tunes to just drift away and dream of your delightful future?
Unplug from all electronics for 24 hours or just for the evening. Revel in the peacefulness of your surroundings.
Take a long stroll in nature and listen to the sounds of tiny miracles all around you.
Celebrate with friends with whom you have meaningful connections.
Stay at home, create a peaceful zen environment and journal, write your heart out, and then celebrate!
Talk on the phone with a good friend or family member and really connect heart to heart.
You deserve to do a happy dance all by yourself if you want to! Put on some rock n roll or whatever makes you feel alive and dance dance, dance!
Dancing, by the way, is great for a ‘nervous system’ reset and can make you feel so much better after a few songs.
These are just a few ideas to allow you to practice falling in love with every part of your imperfections, your graceful, sweet, messy self, and love it all!
you are made for more
Working through the trauma of divorce, becoming an empty nester, feeling alone, blue, depressed, and pretty much hopeless are the hardest lessons I've ever had to learn but it has made me so much MORE.
YOU are made for more lovely.
The tides have changed now nothing- no feeling is forever.
So embrace the love space you are in at the moment and relish the adventure- all the highs and lows.
A return to love within feels so much better than longing to be loved in a relationship that's not loving you.
(I know, I used to be there)
Know that you're never alone and that this day and every day can feel special in so many new ways than you may be accustomed to.
You just have to keep on going and keep on trying. Because you WILL get there.
Bring yourself flowers, dance on the rooftop, eat the best chocolate ever as often as you desire!
Whatever brings you joy and a smile in your heart, do it every day.❤️
When you honor the most important relationship in your life…..the one with yourself, life can be more beautiful than ever!
YOU are AMAZING and YOU are LOVED. He, (Divine Spirit, Great Spirit, Infinite Source) goes with you wherever you go. You are never alone.
Wipe those tears and get on with this one and only wild, priceless life. ❤️❤️👑👑😘
“PEACE, HARMONY, LOVE AND HAPPINESS IS MINE AND THE WORLDS”
Lots of love to you,
Shelley
